After reading this brilliant post by Scary Mommy, I decided to add a few more to the list.
There are so many parts of pregnancy that no one tells you about!…Or that you have to experience first-hand.
A lot of these are third trimester milestones, mostly because that’s where my brain is at right now. At least, I think that’s where my brain is… it’s been a little M.I.A. lately. I think I’m still in shock over how many items one needs to hold a baby. Bassinet, crib, pack n play, car carrier, swing, bouncer, Baby Bjorn, etc. ETC.
So I decided to take a break from wiping things down and popping in new batteries, to note the milestones that stand out in my mind from the second trimester on.
When you forget that you are pregnant.
Hopefully, you have a smooth enough pregnancy that at some point in the second trimester, you feel like yourself again. I had about three solid months where I felt AWESOME. Man, I miss those days.
When people notice/comment.
I’m from the school of thought that you should never comment on a women’s pregnancy, unless you have already confirmed that she is pregnant. But that’s just me. I do enjoy when people ask me the due date or wish me well on the pregnancy. This started way late (think a month ago) in my pregnancy, mostly because this nasty winter lasted forever, and I was wearing a giant coat. But now I’m bumping out big-time in my t-shirts, and totally forget I look quite maternal until someone mentions it. It is funny that you feel like you’re showing way before anyone else can tell.
When you decide on a name.
Ideally, this is a smooth process, but it can be stressful to name a child. You have your favorites, he has his. It has to work with the last name, and not be anyone’s in your immediate family or friends. Or heck, go that route and hope they get the baby an amazing gift. Kidding.
Either way, it’s a huge relief when you finally agree on the name.
When people stare.
Yes, this happens in the last month or two. Even my husband glances at my belly when he first gets home from work. It’s hard not to notice, I’m sure. I look like a ticking baby bomb.
When you cannot fit into “normal” clothes, and then only certain maternity clothes.
I remember when I switched to maternity clothes, and breathed a big sigh of relief. They fit awesome, gave me some breathing room, and made me look a lot chicer than I felt. That was in the second trimester. These days? I have like 3 shirts that make me look “cute” pregnant as opposed to ready-to-pop. And I do a lot of laundry, which I guess is good preparation for the next stage.
When you can’t lean forward or bend over anymore (socks are impossible)
As I sit at the computer typing this, I am leaning back in my seat. Which is awkward. But my lovely little miss is running out of space, and kicks me in the ribs everytime I lean forward. My husband saw me hunched over my big belly the other day, writing a to do list, and asked, “Are you uncomfortable? That looks really uncomfortable.” Do you really want to know, buddy?;)
When your belly moves on its own.
It’s one thing to feel the baby kick, it’s another thing to see your stomach do a roll when you’re just chilling on the couch. It definitely hits home that your body is being rented out at the moment.
When you start googling every third trimester symptom, hoping it means labor.
So far I’ve searched “belly dropping”, “tired & nauseous”, “braxton hicks”, and others that are too much to share (you’re welcome). And I’ve already had a baby. Which means that I should know that nothing really means labor besides, well, regular contractions. It doesn’t stop me from googling constantly, and finding that almost every symptom results in a baby in 24 hours, or a month later. Give or take.
When you start planning events for after the baby’s arrival.
It’s really hard to do this, since the first three months of a child’s life are so unpredictable. But life moves on, so you try to imagine doing things with a baby (and possibly other children). At this point, it really hits home that your life is going to change. In a fun, yet crazy, way.
I’ll share before & after pictures of the nursery when it’s done– so excited for the big changes that are happening in there! Lavender was definitely the perfect color choice.
And I’ll also share some (supposedly) labor-inducing meals next week. If I’m waiting around for the big day, I’m going to be eating well!